Most of us sometimes feel demotivated at a certain point in life. There are few reasons why. First, setting an unrealistic goal. This usually happens because you feel you need to impress other people. So you choose a goal that doesn’t really matter to you. Second, you haven’t gotten clear on your deep why. You can easily choose a goal that you’re excited about, genuinely running toward something you’re really passionate about. But if you haven’t gotten clear on why it is important to you, it can be easy to forget and inevitably you lose motivation. Third, being pessimistic. Some people only see the bad side in anything that happens. Lastly, people tend to be time-wasters.They cannot schedule very efficiently.
The list goes on depending on the type of person you are. But now, let’s understand why we need to motivate ourselves.
Motivation is not magic. It does not come in a bottle. There is no little blue pill for it. But it’s something you can tap into by design then harness. Once you take charge of how motivated you feel in any given moment, your quality of life will change dramatically.
I’ve come up with the most effective ways to keep motivating ourselves.
1. Set a goal and visualize it down to the most minute detail.
See it, feel it, hear the sounds that accompany the end result (wind rushing through your hair, applause). Elite athletes visualize their performance ahead of time — right down to the smell of the sweat dripping down their face as they cross the finish line.
2. Make a list of the reasons you want to accomplish the goal.
In our busy, distracting world, it’s easy to get blown off course. This is why you need to ground yourself in your goal. For extra “success insurance,” write your list with a pen. Studies show that when we write by hand and connect the letters manually, we engage the brain more actively in the process. Because typing is an automatic function that involves merely selecting letters, there’s less of a mental connection.
3. Break the goal down into smaller pieces and set intermediary targets — and rewards.
This concept is called “chunking” and Wikipedia explains that there are eight variations of the concept. To many, it’s the best non-pharmaceutical antidote to ADHD. Tony Robbins, arguably the foremost motivational speaker and personal development coach, says: “A major source of stress in our lives comes from the feeling that we have an impossible number of things to do. If you take on a project and try to do the whole thing all at once, you’re going to be overwhelmed.”
4. Have a strategy, but be prepared to change course.
Let Thomas Edison inspire you in this department: “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up.” “The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”
5. Get the help you need.
It doesn’t necessarily take a village, but even if you could theoretically accomplish your objective alone, there’s inherent value in sharing your plan. It’s why people get married in front of witnesses. Announcing your intentions sends a strong message to the world and, more important, to your unconscious mind, which can sometimes sabotage our best efforts. Also, we often overestimate our abilities. The flip side is being highly selective about whom you tell and ask for help. It’s akin to the builder’s rule to always get “the right tool for the right job.”
6. Celebrate the little wins, no matter how small.
Little wins may seem like just that–little.
Celebrating these wins can help to create positive habits. You break the inertia of mediocrity by teaching everyone around you how to win. They get the chance to bask in that emotion.
7. Be gentle with yourself.
Stop comparing the accomplishments in your life with those of your neighbor. The story you create in your head will never be as good, and the reality will never be as bad.
There are many people who are smarter than you. The moment you can embrace this notion, you’re free. Free to explore. Free to follow what excites you. Free to ignore what they do, or how they do it and focus on you.
8. Embrace vulnerability.
We live in a culture where we horde Instagram followers, and Facebook likes. The perception of our lives being anything less than perfect is a daunting notion. The glossy Facebookification of our lives can create a dangerous facade of success.
Sharing defeats and admitting failure is a powerful cultivator of motivation, allowing you to move past the failure. Work through the emotion instead of taking it out on someone else. Then move on to something more constructive.
Sharing these vulnerable moments also cultivates a deeper connection with peers.
9. Do what you love.
Find what it is you love to do and get proficient at it. Success dwells at the foundation of passion and excellence.
But be careful. Make sure that you can make a living from your passion. I live by the notion that if you are not doing what you love, you are wasting your precious time.
There is an anecdote I’ve heard about Warren Buffett, Bill Gates, and Gates’s father at a dinner party. A guest asked them what the most important quality for success was today and all three responded “Focus” at the same exact time. They all smiled and laughed to each other because they hadn’t really prepared the answer.
Staying focused on your goals is hard. In the beginning, we’re certainly motivated. But we all know how that motivation wanes over time. We get caught up, stuck, frustrated, overloaded, overworked, distracted, and we simply just veer off track. Clearly, it’s hard to stay focused when we have so much going on. “The science of how to stay focused” is an article that discusses ways to get our focus back as quickly and efficiently as possible.
So turn off your iPhone, stop trolling your ex-lover’s Facebook page, and get to work.