ADHD is a highly genetic, brain-based syndrome that has to do with the regulation of a particular set of brain functions and related behaviors. These brain operations are collectively referred to as “executive functioning skills” and include important functions such as attention, concentration, memory, motivation, and effort, learning from mistakes, impulsivity, hyperactivity, organization, and social skills.
ADHD is NOT caused by poor parenting, falls or head injuries, traumatic life events, digital distractions, video games and television, lack of physical activity, food additives, food allergies, or excess sugar.
ADHD is caused by chemical, structural, and connectivity differences in the brain, mostly as a result of genetics.
INATTENTION~ They might procrastinate, not complete tasks like homework or chores, or frequently move from one uncompleted activity to another. Lack focus, forgetful, and might also be disorganized.
HYPERACTIVITY~ They are unable to stay seated, squirm a lot, fidget, or talk excessively.
IMPULSIVITY~ They are impatient, frequently interrupt or intrude others and blurt out answers before someone finishes asking them a question. Impulsivity can lead to accidents, like knocking over objects or banging into people. They may also do risky things without stopping to think about the consequences.
If you know someone having the same symptoms above, it’s best to consult with a professional who’s familiar with ADHD. Seek out a psychiatrist, psychologist, or psychotherapist specializing in ADHD and related challenges
On parenting a child with ADHD
I have 3 kids. My eldest has ADHD.
As a mother, I could say that parenting a child with his condition is twice the challenge of parenting a normal child as I can compare him with my 2 other kids
In my son’s case, we barely noticed it. We thought he was just like the other kids. He is smart, talented, full of life, inquisitive, and very active. He learns fast. He is best in oral recitation. He was an honor student in kindergarten. He led his team for a cheer dance competition and won.
Things turned upside down when he was in first grade. He was failing in class. He lost interest and would roam around the classroom and disturb his classmates by correcting their work or simply initiating talk and play. During exams, he does not read the questionnaire because he easily gets distracted and would just guess the answers or submit an unfinished work. There was even a time, a classmate urged him to go to the bathroom and take a bath to which he obeyed, with his uniform and shoes on. He had trouble writing, he would interchange the p with q and b with d. He was impulsive, he suddenly ran and got hit by a motorbike one day. How fast he absorbs information is the same speed he forgets them, so I frequently refresh his memory. It had alarmed us that he tried to wrap his neck with a scarf until his face turned red without realizing what he’s doing to himself is harmful. Good thing his teacher stopped him.
It was a wake-up call. That time, his teacher advised us to have him checked with a behavioral science doctor. After the check-up and tests, he was diagnosed positive of ADHD.
We were advised to have his therapy, of which we comply. We contacted an excellent occupational therapist that was recommended by his doctor. We were also advised to enroll him in a Special Education (SPED) class but we decided not to and so, he was home schooling. I teach him at home and bring him to school to take quizzes and exams. That’s how he survived first grade. The therapy was done twice a week. 6 months after, he was back on track and we were given positive feedbacks about my son’s improvement. Thankfully, he didn’t go on a dreaded medication. The therapy extremely helped and all the activities that we religiously follow at home.
My son was enrolled in a star section of a public school, which houses 30+ students in their classroom before he was positively diagnosed with ADHD. We’ve asked if it’s possible to enroll him in a normal class, since he is doing well already and that we didn’t want him to feel different.
The occupational therapist advised us that, it is better when my son is with a smaller population and in a controlled environment, like that in a private school with less than 10 students in each class. That we shall continue all the activities we’ve done during the therapy because he needs to follow his routine.
As parents, you would choose what’s best for your child, and so, we enrolled him in a private school when he was in second grade and he graduated 6th grade with honors. He is now in seventh grade and we are so proud of him.
Although it was hard to accept at first, I could say that, following his doctor’s and therapist’s advice, greatly helped us as parents, to better understand my son and to be able to respond to his condition properly.
ADHD is considered a disability, however, my son has proven that he is more than capable of doing things despite that, because he knows that he is accepted, supported and loved unconditionally.